TRF#1: The Secret to Starting Over at 50: Marie Kondo Your Life and Reimagine Your Future

Why the first step to reinvention is reflection—and how to do it right.

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At 58, I found myself in the middle of my kitchen, holding a chipped coffee mug that I didn't even like. I stared at it, realizing it was a perfect metaphor for my life—familiar, functional, but not fulfilling. That moment became the first step in my reinvention journey. Sound dramatic? But come on, let's be honest—sometimes, a chipped coffee mug isn't just a coffee mug. It can be a trigger for change—as in my case.

If you're over 50 and want to reset your life, I created the REIMAGINE framework to help women like us start fresh. It's not a list of steps; it's a guide to completely redesigning your life from the ground up.

Introducing the REIMAGINE Framework

Taking control of your story, one step at a time is the core of REIMAGINE. Here's a sneak peek at the roadmap:

• R: Reflect – Identify what's working, what's not, and where you want to grow.

• E: Envision – Picture the life you want—without limits or fear.

• I: Identity – Uncover the fears and beliefs holding you back.

• M: Move – Take bold, small steps to build momentum.

• A: Align – Ensure your daily actions match your deepest values.

• G: Grow – Step outside your comfort zone and embrace discomfort as progress.

• I: Innovate – Find creative solutions to life's challenges.

• N: Navigate – Stay adaptable when the road gets bumpy.

• E: Empower – Celebrate your journey and inspire others by sharing your story.

In the next few newsletters, I'll explain each step in this framework, starting with the most crucial one: reflection.

A True Story of Reinvention: Susan Watson

At 50, Susan Watson found herself at a crossroads. In her twenties, she had dreamed of becoming a doctor and even earned a place in medical school. But life had other plans. Marriage, kids, and responsibilities took precedence. So, Susan let that dream go.

Fast-forward three decades. Susan had a fulfilling career as an Episcopal priest. She guided others on their spiritual journeys. Yet, a nagging feeling remained. She realized that her calling to heal wasn't just spiritual—it was physical, too. One evening, after deeply reflecting on her life, Susan asked herself, "What if it's not too late?"

This question drove Susan to a bold decision. She would reapply to medical school. At 50, she entered a lecture hall full of students half her age. She was chasing her dream again. It was challenging. Juggling her studies, ministry, and family responsibilities was exhausting. But Susan's reflection had given her clarity, which became her compass.

Today, Susan is a practicing doctor, blending her skills as a healer of both body and spirit. Her journey proves it's never too late to reconnect with your passions and chart a new course.

You can read more about Susan's inspiring journey here.

Why Reflection Matters

Reflection isn't about wallowing in regret or reliving mistakes; it's about clarity. When we're honest about what's working, what's not, and where we want to grow, we create space for new opportunities. Think of it as decluttering your mind—making room for the life you want.

Marie Kondo said it best: "The question of what you want to own is actually the question of how you want to live your life." Apply this to your life—what do you want to keep? What needs to go?

How to Start Reflecting

1. Write It Down: Spend 15 minutes each day journaling. What's working? What's not? What excites you?

2. Marie Kondo Your Commitments: List your activities and relationships. Ask, Do they spark joy?

3. Dream a Little: Where do you want to grow? What's your ideal life at 50, 60, or 70?

4. Talk It Out: Reflection isn't a solo sport. Call a trusted friend or hire a coach. Sometimes, clarity comes through conversation.

The Power of Letting Go

Here's the truth: You can't create a new life while clinging to the old one. Reflection will push you to let go of habits, roles, and even people that no longer serve you. It's painful, but it's also liberating. Remember, you're not "losing" parts of your life—you're creating room for growth.

Where are you in your reinvention journey?

Here is a mini-workbook to get you started: Reflection

Thanks for reading, and have a great week! 🌹